Christian dating and marriage
God makes things work for your good, and that includes your dating life.
If you trust in Him and listen to what he says about relationships, He will work for your good.
But we can't be pro-active unless principles are established. I hope and pray the words from this post will spark further conversations in your ministries, relationships and homes.
Here are 10 really important principles for Christian dating.1. The truth is you could spend your life with more than one person.
You might get into a relationship with someone who loves Jesus, meets the values you have in a future spouse and is compatible with you. Just end the relationship and continue to seek the Lord. Again, please don't be a freakish weirdo and give Christians a negative label. My wife loves the Lord, and I can say with all certainty I wouldn't be following Jesus without her. Pull over at the closest gas station and decide what you want in a future spouse. Your list is designed to give you a framework for dating, not be a checklist for it. Your heart and the holiness of marriage are too important to flippantly give away because you are frustrated, impatient or settling.
But once you get into the relationship, you realize things aren't as they seemed. Having coffee or going to eat dinner with the opposite sex is not dating. There will be days when life is crashing down, your faith is wavering, and the only thing left will be your spouse. In this scenario, your spouse is there to pray for you, put his or her arm around you and walk with you. It's dangerous riding on the road to marriage without an idea of where you are going. Don't sit someone down on the first date and interview them to make sure they meet all of the qualities.
If you are a Christian, there is no reason to date without a trajectory towards marriage. Dating with a trajectory toward marriage means dating with a purpose. Prayer helps you overcome anything life throws at you. #2 Learn to walk in the fullness of your purpose and destiny by living each day with Holy Spirit.
It means dating with an understanding of the gospel. Buy a set of Life in the Spirit, get a second set FREE.
But honestly, the main lesson I’ve learnt is a difficult one: it’s frustrating and easy to pretend it’s not true, but God’s way is the best way, like it or not. There is good reason for this instruction, but I remember in my youth groups and with my Christian girl friends we would find so many excuses to ignore it, because we liked guys that weren’t Christian and wanted to justify ourselves!
It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later). It involves sharing personal struggles and vulnerability.
Casual or purposeless dating has no benefit for Christians. We are designed to know why we do stuff and where we are going. Now, please, please, please don't be a freakish weirdo. So if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. Don't Date Non-Christians The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage?
It’s so easy to do, but I have dated a few non-Christian guys and in my opinion, it’s not worth it.
They may be amazing but in my experience, they didn’t pray for me, didn’t try and stick to the values I have, didn’t challenge me, weren’t be able to build me up in faith and not having that did not make the fact that they were cute worth the sacrifice.